Updating my fairytale

LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX BABY... and by that I mean let's talk about people's private parts. Ok, well not really cause that would be a little too much, but really, I watched Friends With Benefits, and let me just say a lot of it was cringe-worthy. Why? Because, apart from it's incredibly predictable plot and awkward butt-flashing sex scenes, the generalization of gender roles were downright sinful. I mean come on, literally, in one scene Tommy says, "Does she have a penis where most girls have a vagina? [Dylan: No] THEN SHE'S NO DIFFERENT." So here's the thing about that, it's annoying, because it is not a gender assigned characteristic for others to want intimacy and connection. Yet, in nearly every romantic comedy, in every boy and girl friend situation, it is always assumed that women are the only ones that make it messy. That we are the only ones that desire connection. Even worse, is the shit we get when we aren't like that, hence the expression, "I'm not good at being a girl," But how can people be bad at being a girl? They'll say because they are not feminine or because they can't have children, they aren't good with feelings, but none of this means they are bad at being girls does it? It's insane. But what's worse is that we've come to accept it as true. Another thing I noticed was what MacKinnon said about the way that sexuality is a lot about male dominance. Not particularly in the ways she mentioned, but the need to be dominant within their relationship and reducing women as things. Like the case with the doctor in the movie, he saw Jamie as more of a prize. She gave him a rule and that made him want to win her and make her submiss through manipulating her. He wanted to be in power and did not think of her as a human being with feelings but as something to be dominated and powered over and a prize. I mean, like Mackinnon states, relationships and sexuality are normally male dominant and female submissive. I saw that in the way that Dylan has a lot power in the relationship, even though Jamie was very blunt and honest and did have power, in the end it was Dylan who had the power to define the relationship. Jamie's mom even says that relationships are equal and that they're about being equal partners and that prince charming should be redefined. I agree. I think that women and men should be seen as more fluid and not limited to definitions. Prince charming does not have to be a man or the person you marry, and sexuality should not be determined by your gender. In the movie I noticed a lot that they tried to shift the roles a little, make Jamie more dominant, but it also showed the insecurities men have in that role like when Dylan climbed the fence because he was called out. It sucks, and really, everyone's guilty of doing it. I think however, it's time that we stop the inequality and realize that it's not always great to label people no matter how much easier it maybe because then shapes the people we become and doesn't allow us the freedom to really become all that we could be.